many of my attractive friends get those insults lobbed right to their faces.
No, women are showered with that attention for being desirable. No one wants to hire an unattractive women for front-of-house. And that whole “but attractive women are treated like they’re stupid, so at least you have that going for you” is an absolute myth. But in general, you’re friendzoned more than you friendzone. People have laughed—openly—at the idea of dating me. You can read her response in full at Reddit via Dave Chen Get entertainment, celebrity and politics updates via Facebook or Twitter.
There is a big clue that filtering based on people’s looks is going on with Bumble and it doesn’t take a software engineer to notice it. Compare that to random matches on a site like Ok Cupid.
(At least they have an option you need to choose to filter by attractiveness) If this is the case for Bumble & they’re discreetly filtering, it’s a problem.
White men are most numerous on mainstream dating sites like OKCupid and and that’s where daters go to look for them.
You might think it’s convenient that the attractive folks are shown upfront but that’s really false because what ends up happening is everyone sees them too and so those cute profiles are flooded with matches and are less likely to respond to you. Guys are used to the rejection and some unfortunately will indirectly end up with “trigger happy swipe right thumbs”.
One dating expert said “If you are a black woman on and you’re not going to initiate contact then you are not going to date.
That’s just the reality.”To get any response at all, black women have to reach out roughly 1.5 times the amount of any other group — and they are still the group that’s the least responded to.
In the first 24 hours of the profiles being online: This might not surprise anyone, but seeing just how wide the gulf is between the sexes in a quick and dirty fake profile experiment is pretty eye-opening.
It also gives weight to gender stereotypes many people might find uncomfortable, such as relying on tropes of male agression and female passivity (receptivity) in social sexual situations.